Bowen had earlier reports of domestic dispute trouble

BY JIM MUSTIAN
THE DAILY IBERIAN
Published/Last Modified on Sunday, December 28, 2008 6:08 AM CST

DELCAMBRE — Matt Bowen rebuilt a 1972 Chevy Nova recently but never got the chance to race it. It always rained on the days he wanted to take it to the track for a spin.

Taking things apart and putting them back together again was a passion of Bowen’s. But a dozen interviews with family members and friends here suggest Bowen struggled to piece his life back together after a series of personal tragedies, including the death of his father and infant son.

Bowen took his life Thursday afternoon after a seven-hour standoff with police, a Christmas Day tragedy that shook this town. Bowen, 40, was well-known in Delcambre, and so were many of his problems.

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Mayor Carol Broussard said police have dealt with Bowen in multiple domestic disputes of late, including a similar incident with shotgun threats during a recent hurricane. At the time of his death, Bowen had been struggling with drugs on and off for some time, said Cliff Bernard, a cousin who said he watched Bowen grow up.

Joel Terrebonne of the Delcambre Police Department said there were unconfirmed reports Thursday that Bowen and his girlfriend Melissa Wetzel had smoked crack cocaine before the dispute that led to the standoff.

If Bowen abused drugs to the extent many have suggested, for the most part, it flew under the radar of law enforcement officials.

Police records indicate Bowen was arrested in 2002 for misdemeanor possession of marijuana. He was arrested again in April for driving while intoxicated, but that was the extent of his criminal history, according to a police database.

“He just got caught up in the wrong crowd,” said James Saucier, who said he was a close friend of Bowen’s. “But you couldn’t ask for a better person.”

Friends attributed several hardships to Bowen’s derailment. When Bowen was still a student at Delcambre High School, his father, Thomas, died of a heart attack in a bar during the Delcambre Shrimp Festival.

“He never got over that,” Bernard said. “He never let things go.”

About 10 years ago, Bowen’s ex-wife gave birth to twins. One of them, Michael, died at birth. Bowen visited his grave almost every day, one friend said. Within the past year, Bowen’s wife, Michelle Robichaux Bowen, divorced him.

“He had a rough life,” Bernard said.

Still, many said they admired Bowen’s talent as a welder, his love for children and his courtesy and politeness to women and the elderly. An avid hunter and fisherman, there wasn’t an outdoors season  Bowen missed. Saucier said Bowen shot a deer as recently as last Friday while hunting.

“We were always in a boat growing up,” Saucier said. “He absolutely loved the outdoors. He was never one to stay inside.”

Friends and family can pay their final respects to Bowen today at the Evangeline Funeral Home in Delcambre. Visitation is from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. with a rosary at 7 p.m. Bowen’s funeral is scheduled for Monday at 11 a.m. at Our Lady of the Lake Catholic Church.

Comments

    RT .... wrote on Jan 13, 2009 3:00 PM:

    " L.T. made a point that he was a good guy... and something happened that apparently made him flip out and it snowballed... just because you can't see yourself doing that at the time, doesn't mean you couldn't... you don't know what your future holds. Let God be the judge. You have absolutely no clue what was going through that man's mind... and as a survivor of my husband's suicide I'd just like to say that this forum has been the most inconsiderate, unsympathetic and uncaring ones I have seen. Some of you should ask for forgiveness from God. "

    Occasional forum Visitor wrote on Jan 8, 2009 1:56 AM:

    " For the love of God, a man is dead in this tragic article. All these hateful comments to make some feel more special than a dead man. There's a medical term for that...nuts. Weep for your special selves because your time is coming!! Christian Acadiana area is supposed to be a place all about family, the joy of life, and helping friends and neighbors in need. This Acadiana forum has too many who find a special joy in the misfortunes of the less fortunate.

    Good day. "

    just me wrote on Jan 7, 2009 11:18 AM:

    " To some of you in here I hope that no one in your family ever goes through this. I just have to say "You never know when it will be your turn". No one is immune to these tragedies. "

    MR CLEAN wrote on Jan 7, 2009 10:02 AM:

    " RE: Can't Stand It

    While I agree with many of your statements in one post, you seriously need to check yourself if you are indeed thankful that this man is deceased. That's about as brazen as one can be. You must be a very bitter person. "

    Becky wrote on Jan 7, 2009 9:14 AM:

    " Seriously, everyone should just keep their negative comments to theirselves. Everyone is always quick to judge. And yes Delcambre is a very small town where they know everyone's business and alot of rumors are spread whether they are true or not. I lived in Delcambre and just recently moved. People just need to leave this guy's family alone. Let him rest in peace. "

    B.Bean wrote on Jan 7, 2009 6:22 AM:

    " cool J.
    You need to read a little closer , I am not the one that said it was a disease,

    Yes we should feel sorry for addicts ,but I wont forgive ALL of their actions. That is why most stay addicted.

    JAIL is the best medicine for this disease! "

    Family of an Addict wrote on Jan 6, 2009 7:53 AM:

    " Not all addicts are bad people. They are individuals that made some bad choices that led them to becoming addicts. Instead of wishing that all addicts would commit suicide, why not wish for them to seek the help they need in order to become sober? Addicts can change and overcome their addiction. Unfortunately, Mr. Bowen was unable to do this. No, it is not right to turn to drugs and alcohol when one is unable to deal with tragedy. But it happens and these individuals should not be shunned, but should be encouraged to get the help they need. "

    ALANON wrote on Jan 6, 2009 7:47 AM:

    " Being an addict, whether it be to alcohol or drugs is not a choice. Who would choose to live their life that way? They do choose to use the first time, but the dependency that later develops is a disease. Addiction is one of the very worst diseases because it affects the body, mind, and all who care for the addict. We should feel sorry for those who are addicts because addiction is a very difficult cycle to break. "

    Cool J. wrote on Jan 4, 2009 9:23 PM:

    " To B. Bean: You wrote that Alcohol and Drugs are a disease... They are not a disease.. They are choice, a choice that someone chooses to abuse, then become dependent upon to live a everyday life. Thanks to AA meetings, where a person has to want to change to stop the abuse of something they choose to do. And how many return to Alcohol or Drugs even after they leave each meeting? How about we feel sorry for those who get under the influence and place an entire community in harm's way on Christmas Day? "

    ADW wrote on Jan 3, 2009 2:14 AM:

    " How many people's lives did Matt Bowen affect on 12/25/08 with his violent suicide? His estranged wife and their children, family members, friends, and his girlfriend, will remember the anniversary of his violent suicide every Christmas from now on. Along with law enforcement officers from 3 agencies, some of whom were shot at by him that day. I thank God they were able to go home to their families safely and salvage what was left of their Christmas. Matt Bowen made choices, includung how he would be remembered, the tv news and newspapers reported what happened. "

    Cant stand it wrote on Jan 2, 2009 9:16 PM:

    " And further more I am thankful he is R.I.P. rather than us (the real good guys) having to foot his bill for the next twenty years while he serves the time. He will no longer beat women, terrorize young children, or attempt to kill any other law officers. Perhaps instead of beating the " Oh poor Matt was just misunderstood" tune, maybe you should offer words of comfort to that child, his children he CHOOSE to leave behind, or those officers whose lives were forever scarred that day. But I forgot he use to be such a great guy! "

    Cant stand it wrote on Jan 2, 2009 9:10 PM:

    " Ok L.T. let me get this straight. So I am going through alot. So according to your thinking I can wake up on a holiday and beat the crap outta my girlfriend. Then for kickers I can terrorize her young child. Whoa, then when the good guys get there I can shoot at them and try and deprive their families from seeing them every again. Then to top it all off I can kill myself and avoid "facing the music" like a man. But hey it's all good. I have a free pass because i was such a "good guy." "

    To B.Bean wrote on Jan 2, 2009 9:01 PM:

    " You don't have a family member or a friend who has been afflicted with the DISEASE of alcohol or drugs, do you? If you did you wouldn't be thinking as you do. Might I suggest you make a AA meeting and listen to the men and women who go there looking for help. Thru those meetings you might, just might realize how much of a DISEASE this really is. "

    Delcambre is my home wrote on Jan 2, 2009 9:33 AM:

    " To: Once was a Delcambre resident,
    You are a very HATEFUL person! Just because you didn't like living here, doesn't mean the town should be buried. Many lives were shattered by the destruction from the hurricanes. If Delcambre is such a horrible place, then stay away, and forget about this town. Don't run your mouth about it! "

    tsf wrote on Jan 1, 2009 8:39 PM:

    " I know that everyone has their own opinion, but I just hope that Michelle & their 2 young boys are not reading these comments. Delcambre is a rough town to live in & getting out was an easy decision, but that does not mean that there are not good people there. I didn't really know Matt, just a little a long time ago, but he always seemed to be smiling. Sometimes good people make bad choices & what's worse is the hurt you leave behind. If the family does read, know that prayers come from places you don'teven know. "

    Bbean wrote on Dec 31, 2008 5:44 PM:

    " I did know Matt, I was not as impressed as you were with him. I never said he was a thug . I and many more have also gone through more than our share of bad times, and are still seeing some , but the difference between a good guy, and not, is the one that opts out with drugs and takes it out on his kids and family is not the good guy ! "

    L.T. wrote on Dec 31, 2008 1:51 PM:

    " To B.Bean did you know Matt to be able to say that he was not a good guy? And to Apalled Matt was no thug! I worked with Matt. He was not some hoodlum. He just had tough times and went through alot. Matt was a great person regardless of these last events that unfolded. If you didn't know him your opinion isn't worth reading. May you rest in peace Matt. Ours prayings are with his family. "

    For All Those Who Left Delcambre wrote on Dec 30, 2008 9:52 PM:

    " If you left Delcambre, why do you keep coming back for more? It's people like you who give the town a bad name. Shame on you! "

    DI Reader wrote on Dec 30, 2008 8:17 PM:

    " To AM: What this woman that he was beating on on Christmas morning his wife? Evidently he and his wife were not together because this woman was not his wife. So your point that he was not divorced is....? And if he and this woman WERE smoking crack, that could be a possible reason for the mindset he was in when he started SHOOTING at law enforcement!
    Just like you state that people are inconsiderate to put him down, we think that you are just as irresponsible by putting him on a pedistle. "

    Abbeville wrote on Dec 30, 2008 7:33 PM:

    " I never knew the family nevertheless I lost a sister due to suicide and when the walls close in on u they close in!!!!! My prayer is that the family finds peace. Read Psalms 91 "

    B.Bean wrote on Dec 30, 2008 4:18 PM:

    " This was NOT a good guy ! A good guy would not have pulled a gun on his family!

    I also dont buy the DISEASE thing either . You do drugs to get a good feeling , then when the good turns south you call it a DISEASE? "

    From the area wrote on Dec 30, 2008 2:15 PM:

    " Wow this just amazes me. People who know nothing about this man and his family or his problems are quick to judge. Remember he has to face his maker. That is the only person who can judge. And for the people who are so negative about this "newpaper" you sure do keep coming back to post your comments. I agree with Mr. Clean....THIS IS A NEWSPAPER. It's your choice to read it or not. My prayers to the family. "

    an ex-Delcambre wrote on Dec 30, 2008 12:18 PM:

    " I choose to leave this message because I knew Matt and his family all my life. The public media really needs to think about what they leave in the papers or the tv, in sake of the family members. It is ALWAYS blown out of preportion. And to think, this is the whole reason why I left Delcambre - TOO MANY PEOPLE IN EVERYBODY'S BUSINESS. Can people just for once, take a look at your life and quit paying so much attention to things other people do? Shame on ALL you who made fun or ridiculed this poor family. RIPMatt! "

    What Everyone is Forgetting wrote on Dec 30, 2008 8:45 AM:

    " I know Matt and the family. What everyone seems to be forgetting is he could of killed innocent people in this whole ordeal! He should of gotten help a long time ago! The whole article seems to sugarcoat his life. Oh please! I cannot believe one comment suggested that Delcambre should of been buried with the hurricane. Now that is just plain wrong! You spit in the air when you said that! "

    Why wrote on Dec 30, 2008 8:23 AM:

    " Can anyone tell me why the editor continues to pursue this story and defame this poor man? If they want to write a story, do some investigating in to the real facts that occurred involving the 3 deputies that were supposidy doing surrveilance. LET THIS MAN REST IN PEACE...HE AND HIS FAMILY HAVE SUFFERED ENOUGH! "

    Iberia Boy wrote on Dec 30, 2008 8:08 AM:

    " I assume that everyone that posted these negative comments have no children, siblings, parents, etc......because last time I checked, New Iberia is not totally incapsulated from the problems and ills of the world. Empathy, not always sympathy should be given to persons who fall on hard times, because we will all have some at a point in our lives! "

    Iberia Boy wrote on Dec 30, 2008 7:52 AM:

    " Appalled by this story, it's comments, thoughts, attitudes, thinking like yours that are common today that will get you only about 14 people to come and lie about you when your dead and gone! "

    appalled by this story wrote on Dec 30, 2008 2:45 AM:

    " Sounds to me like this man solved his problems in a very pubescent way. At his age, he is no longer a victim, so please dont paint his story in that way. A true victim is someone who does everything the right way, deals with things in the right way and still at the end of the day cant get a break. Talk to me about someone like that and I'll feel sorry for them. Just one more thug off the streets. "

    Disgusted wrote on Dec 29, 2008 9:40 PM:

    " As a survivor of suicide, let me say this to the family, I am so sorry for your loss. Please ignore the ignorance on the Daily Iberian. I can't believe you people could be so mean. Although I did not know this man, he was a husband, father, son, uncle, brother, and friend please think of the people that he left behind. "

    MR CLEAN wrote on Dec 29, 2008 5:12 PM:

    " Newflash for all of you: This is a newspaper. What happened is newsworthy. "

    SAD SAD SAD wrote on Dec 29, 2008 4:22 PM:

    " I think this entire article is too much information being givento the public. There are some things that need to be private and this is DEFINATELY one of them. So,he was on drugs (maybe), and had past "issues" with his father and son. Everyone with a subscription to this paper does not need to know this. Where is your compassion??? "

    all ya need 2 know is last name Delcambre wrote on Dec 29, 2008 2:55 PM:

    " Matt was a very good person and father and friend. Why do people have to always put down on an other!!! NO ONE is perfect, we all make mistakes. I mean Delcambre isnt exactly the best place to even raise your child these days! All the drugs around and no one can seem to stop them from coming. Open your eyes people, Drugs are every where, involved in lot's of families. You all just try and hide it to make your selves feel better. Face it...WE ARE NO BETTER THAN ANYONE! Let this man and his family have PEACE! "

    Jessi Migues wrote on Dec 29, 2008 2:34 PM:

    " If you don't have anything good to say about someone you shouldn't say ANYTHING. Please keep negative comments to yourself. Everyone needs to think about the family that is hurting right now. They don't need to hear negative things. Matt was a great person, loving husband, son and father. "

    Once was a Delcambre resident wrote on Dec 29, 2008 1:59 PM:

    " It amazes me how everyone in this area can just pray on other peoples bad fortune, the Delcambre, New Iberia , surrounding area has the most spewd hatred and jeaolously and just down right awful people in the country. I now live far away from that god forsaken town, God should have buried Delcambre in those Hurricanes, maybe the people there would judge less and pray more "

    Recovering AddictAlcoholic wrote on Dec 29, 2008 1:37 PM:

    " To drugskill & lala:
    That was the most insensitive thing I've ever read. I am a former addict/alcoholic. I HAVE BEEN SOBER NOW FOR 5 1/2 YEARS. If someone had wished that I took my own life before I got help, then my kids would be without a mother & I would not be where I am today; about to graduate college with my BACHELOR'S degree, with student loans I took out to repay- NOT LRS! ADDICTION IS A DISEASE!! EDUCATE YOURSELF instead of wishing horrible things like death on people. "

    Sorry To Say wrote on Dec 29, 2008 9:19 AM:

    " People have had worse problems and haven't turned to drugs. If he was having trouble dealing with these deaths that happened ages ago, he should have gotten help! Maybe this wouldn't of happened? "

    jess wrote on Dec 29, 2008 7:49 AM:

    " why even put anything positive about a person if your going to air all of his business as well Dailey Iberian? Maybe Delcambre knew this man well, but not everyone else in surrounding parishes... sickening! "

    JM wrote on Dec 29, 2008 6:59 AM:

    " Hey, what's wrong with the truth? Sometimes people don't like to hear the truth, sometimes they do. If the news was all good all of the time we know for sure it would be false. All I gathered from this article was that a good person was led astray by drugs that took over his life and eventually destroyed him. There is a message there for everyone. "

    t.c. wrote on Dec 28, 2008 11:48 PM:

    " so what if this guy had past problems,thats the past! for the love of god jim mustian of the daily iberian let the guy rest in peace! this is just one example why i dont subscribe to this thrash any more ,its worthless like used toilet paper. "

    bayoutigure wrote on Dec 28, 2008 8:02 PM:

    " It is sad to go ahead and air out all all the things that happend in his life, seems like the newspapaer now gets there kicks off of telling all the bad things in articles, no one needs to know all of Matts, history, he is gone may he rest in peace. "

    BS wrote on Dec 28, 2008 2:28 PM:

    " Hey Mr. Joel Terrebonne
    If anything is unconfirmed why would you even mention it? That is called a RUMOR. A police officer should have more sense than that. "

    lala wrote on Dec 28, 2008 1:25 PM:

    " Yay! One less drug abuser on the streets. If the police can't do anything about it on the streets then this is hopefully a trend in drug abusers. "

    drugskill wrote on Dec 28, 2008 1:24 PM:

    " I don't feel sorry for Mr. Bowen in the least. Nobody made him do drugs. Life is hard but you just have to deal. I wish all drug abusers would take their lives like he did-it would be a much better world. Drug free is the way to be. "

    Childhood Friend wrote on Dec 28, 2008 8:53 AM:

    " Matt you will never be forgotten for the good you did in your lifetime!
    You were one who would have given your last $ if someone needed and the clothes of your back!
    Those of us who knew the True Matt will never let you go!
    RIP Matt! "

    AM wrote on Dec 28, 2008 7:35 AM:

    " Boy you can truly screw up a story. First of all do you need to put that they were smoking crack, he does have children that will hear about this. Second, he is not divorsed, they are still married and she will now have to explain to her boys why the daily Iberian along with the people that were interviewed are inconsiderate. God help all of you people. "

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