Accepting Differences

By Just Think
Published/Last Modified on Tuesday, July 1, 2008 5:13 AM CDT

Many influential people in New Iberia are gay. Those of you who have children may need to thank a homosexual person for having such a positive influence on your child or maybe even for saving their life. Everyone encounters many people on a daily basis and they would never believe how many of them are gay. People should love people for who they are…not for what they are. Being gay does not define who a person is…it is just part of a person. I am a lesbian who has been in a relationship for 14 years. In a world where divorce is increasing, I think that this is defying all odds. We are both active members of the community… not the gay community but your community. People accept us for what we do for others, and do not judge us for being gay. So, continually bashing and bad mouthing homosexuals will not solve any problems…understanding and accepting differences will. Let us not judge others….let God be the judge!!

 

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Comments

    happy wrote on Jul 16, 2008 2:26 PM:

    " GOD will NOT be JUDGED,because he payed the price for our sin!! "

    Truth wrote on Jul 11, 2008 4:44 PM:

    " In all the statements I've let you know that the "choice is yours". You accuse these statements of being judgmental. If they are, then Gods Word is what's judging. What I'm doing is informing you of Gods Word, not my interpretation nor of anybody else. But maybe I’m doing something else that God said not to do, cast pearls before swine. The choice will be yours till you die, then you have no more choice. And when you stand before God, you can’t say you didn’t know. He'll just say "I knew you not" "

    Deborah C. White wrote on Jul 11, 2008 11:35 AM:

    " I have not commented on this issue. The only thing I want to say is this. Gay's are extremely nice, thoughtful, caring, happy and fun individuals. I have been exposed to them and I find that more people could practice being as congenial as they are. Their lifestyle is their choice (or born that way) and it does not involve me. Therefore I choose to let this issue be. Everyone is entitled to form their own opinions of them. I know what mine is. The do not disturb me one bit. "

    gb wrote on Jul 11, 2008 7:52 AM:

    " truth alot stranger than fiction:
    good example of "what you dont know cant hurt you"

    gay employer......gay worker with aids!
    worker started bleeding and freaks out
    made it a point to tell everyone that he was infected ...others freak out and call the health dept ...was the bleeding worker let go ?...yes and transferred to another one of the employers restuarants ...yes this is local ..i was a witness to that day.
    everything was on the QT naturally
    you figure it out ...good old new iberia .probably another post that will be deleted to protect new iberia's finest. "

    Not Surprised wrote on Jul 11, 2008 2:58 AM:

    " Truth, if God is the judge, who made you the jury? Did God? Unlikely. Your intentions are good, but why even bother? It's none of your business anyway. It's their life, not yours. Let them do what they want and let God decide their fate. Personally, I don't think it's a big deal. Regardless, I wonder why you feel the need to dictate how others live their lives. Because of YOUR interpretation of a bible passage? C'mon! Who ever said your interpretation was right? Not me. Anyone? Anyone? Maybe you appointed yourself authority. Yes? Thanks, but no thanks. "

    to all on this article wrote on Jul 10, 2008 4:31 PM:

    " First let me say i think you people are stessing to much on the subjuect. Lets see, its not your lifestyle, its not you in the so called "forbidden" relationship, it just not you. Maybe we should call the CDC and get a vaccine so we don't get the gay virus. Your talking as if its an epidemic. Get over it life is just what it is life,I know you all make my day with your ignorant comments, keep them coming. "

    Just wondering wrote on Jul 10, 2008 12:52 PM:

    " Since so many here are referring to the Bible, let's look at the story of Lot. After his city was destroyed and his wife turned to a pillar of salt, it was Lot and his two daughters that were left, hiding in a cave. If my memory serves me correctly, didn't Lot's daughters get him drunk and have sex with him, in fear of being the only people left alive on the planet?

    Fast forward to today. Incest is a sin and against the law today. But it happened in the Bible and God didn't strike them down! "

    Joanne wrote on Jul 10, 2008 12:29 PM:

    " My problem with gays, and I have friends and family who are, is when they throw out the notion that they are born gay. My friend will tell you it was her own choosing! My daughter experimenting with it, that was her curiosity! This couple who was just recently visiting us have adopted a little boy, and they would tell you that this is their right to choose the lifestyle they prefer. They are the happiest couple. I don't judge them, I simply love them. God knows all of our hearts and choices! "

    Truth wrote on Jul 10, 2008 8:02 AM:

    " Well, that's just it chuck, nobody has to look in windows or spy or any of your allegations or assumptions. God sees all and He is the judge. The bible clearly states that God loves the sinner but He hates the sin and turns from it, so that makes your last statement false. If you choose to continue to believe this lie you give yourself, that's your choice. Just remember, there are eternal consequences. I'd much rather see ya'll in heaven than being tortured in the fiery pit for all of eternity.Rev.20:11-15 "

    Gay People are PEOPLE wrote on Jul 10, 2008 7:09 AM:

    " Well said Chuck. I pray that each of you are blessed with gay family members as I have been. Maybe then your disgust will turn into understanding and love.

    "If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones - don't shatter my image till you look at your own. Look at your reflection in your house of glass - stay out of my closet if your own's full of trash." - Dolly Parton :) "

    Chuck wrote on Jul 9, 2008 10:23 PM:

    " This will be my final comment on this STUPID and FRUITLESS debate. It is argued by some of you that love is not the sin, but the sex act is. Well, I ask you, unless you are peeking in windows like some pathetic voyeur, you really can't know for sure if they are being sinful at all, now can you? Assuming is a dangerous thing, no matter what the subject might be. Give it a rest already. Your ignorance is grotesquely exposed for all to see. While two grown men holding hands might offend you, God smiles with joy. Finis. "

    Marry to a man wrote on Jul 9, 2008 5:35 PM:

    " GOD!made a male and female!A MAN AND HIS WIFE!!!! "

    Just wondering wrote on Jul 9, 2008 12:45 PM:

    " If it's okay for my husband and I to walk in public, holding hands or with our arms around each other, they why is it not okay for a gay couple to do the same? Are they less than me? Are they lesser in God's eyes? Everyone is created by God. We are ALL God's children. We each have to answer to GOD, not each other, for what we do in our lives on this planet. Get a grip and worry about your own garden before trying to tend someone else's garden.

    Peace and Light! "

    Married to a wonderful Man wrote on Jul 9, 2008 11:56 AM:

    " GOD! Didn.t Make Adam and Steve! GOD! made Adam and EVE!! "

    Truth wrote on Jul 8, 2008 3:22 PM:

    " It's not the translations that were wrong, it's the understanding of that day. For example when Jesus 'sat' before giving the beatitudes, to sit meant to take His place of authority like a minister of today will take his place 'standing' at the pulpit. The translations are accurate, the understanding is what’s different. "

    Truth wrote on Jul 8, 2008 2:46 PM:

    " I misquoted nothing. I gave all that's needed to show that these are not my words but the word of God. I'm full gospel, you pick and choose. We may not like all that's in the Bible but the only way to deny it in there is to deny the entirety of God. You deny Him, He’ll deny you, end of story. Don’t get caught in your own web J.J.

    Where did you get your information. Give me books reference numbers, you can’t prove anything without them. And I continue... "

    To Jarred wrote on Jul 8, 2008 12:57 PM:

    " I believe it's the gay people trying to change the bible to fit their lifestyle. In all due time my friend. "

    Jarred James Breaux wrote on Jul 8, 2008 11:46 AM:

    " Truth quoted mistranslations attributed to political and poorly educated ministers in the 15th century. Somehow, the prevailence of these mistranslations continues. Read my comments about the New Testament, the Septuagint, and specific word choices in the article Canceling My Subscription: http://www.iberianet.com/articles/2008/06/30/forum/doc485e5f481888a838641521.txt

    The Bible was not meant to preach about sin, but rather to preach the love of God and how to live a good life. The Bible talks specifically about Theologians like Truth: “Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. Ye shall know them by their fruits..." (Mathew 7:15-20) "

    To Truth wrote on Jul 7, 2008 5:48 PM:

    " You have tried your best but these people are spiritually blind. And they really don't want to know the truth. It's all about whatever feels good, it's okay. Satan is having a field day. We are beginning to become another Sodom & Gomorrah. God destroyed them and when He has enough, He will deal with America. I believe we are living in the last days. In all due time, we will all see! "

    Kim wrote on Jul 7, 2008 11:05 AM:

    " Hooray Chuck! High five on that one.I wish people would stop poisoning the minds of their children with hate rhetoric on others religious beliefs,sexual preferences, race, etc.Spend time teaching them tolerance instead. If you let children play at a playground with other kids of diffrent ethnic back grounds & religion guess what happens? They will play with everyone & make friends at a drop of a hat.Isaiah 11 6-9 and a little child shall lead them.(This passage depicts idyllic harmony of paradise & is a dramatic symbol of the universal peace & justice of messianic times.. "

    Truth wrote on Jul 7, 2008 10:24 AM:

    " As a student of Theology, you-asked-for-it...

    concordance reference number 730=male=men*1722=en=with=shall have=*730=male=men, for men with men Rom.1:27 in verse 28 God gave them up to reprobate mind to do things not right... reference number 96=adokimos=reprobate=castaway 3563=nous=mind=understanding

    All this in the Greek-Lexicon and Strong’s-Concordance taken from the New Testament word study interlinear-Greek&English Bible coded with strong’s Concordance numbers. It's also considered fornication-Porneia, illicit sexual in-ter-course found in the Expanded-Vines-Expository-Dictionary-of-New-Testament-Words.

    God will not tolerate this behavior and will not recognize anyone who does. His word is clear. He--gave--us--all--a--choice. I--choose--His--way. "

    Truth wrote on Jul 7, 2008 10:12 AM:

    " To Chuck, God does limit love in the sexuality perspective.

    I repeat...

    Sexual sins condemned in the Bible; Adultery;--Ex.20:14,Pr.5:1-23;--Incest,Lev.20:19-21;sex with animals,Lev.20:15-16;--loss of virginity before marrage,--Dt.22:22-21;--prostitution,--Dt.23:17-18,Pr.7:10-27;--homosexuality,--Ro.1:26-27,1Cor.6:9;--obsenity,--Eph.5:4,--Lu_st--Mt.5:27-28,1Th.4:5

    It's not prejudice, it's known sin. But like I've always said, it's your choice, to dig your way to he_ll if you want. I just want you to be aware that there's a way out and/or 'other choices'. It's there for anybody who wants it and it's free, the debt has already been paid. "

    Chuck wrote on Jul 7, 2008 4:24 AM:

    " To "Woman in love with her man": Sure. God created Adam & Eve, but he also created Steve, Sally, Mike, Colleen, John, Mary and a whole bunch of other people who deserve recognition too! Loving someone is not a sin, no matter what gender the loved person might be. Why do you appear to place limits on love when God does not? Another practiced prejudice? Enough said? Not even close. "

    Kim wrote on Jul 4, 2008 10:54 PM:

    " Wow, I am disappointed with the censorship happening on this forum.What happened to my posts? Did I make a personal attack?If so I did'nt mean to.They were well thought out comments that are factual,that most Christians are in the dark about.Tsk tsk!If Christians knew that they're were more than one translating interpretation in a Biblical passage they should have a right to know both so they can determine for themselves what it is.The 1st century greek word malaokoi and the uncertainty of the word arsenakoitai are not well known,as is the fact that homosexual was not referenced until 1948. "

    Kim wrote on Jul 4, 2008 6:35 PM:

    " continued-I believe the passage of 1 Corinthians6:9speaks more about God, and nothing about homosexuality as we know it today.Chuck I totally agree with you,there is a lot in the Good Book I don't agree with simply because when it was written,things were so different.I am not a good Christian either, but I am honest and try to live my life being kind to others.The Church of God isn't the building,but that of its people.Going to church doesn't = a good Christian.Tolerence & a helping hand to those in need is the answer for the worlds salvation. "

    Kim wrote on Jul 4, 2008 6:21 PM:

    " That word is referring to the customers of the effeminant call boys.In today's terms we would call them dirty old men.(aka pedophiles)Others have translated it as sodomites.In the written text Paul is actually condemning the Roman Custom of married men(arsenakotia)hiring hairless young boys(malokoi)for sexual pleasure just as they hired smooth skined young girls for that purpose.Then in 1948, for the 1st time in history,a person translating those words decided that the word meant homosexual.Responsible people straight & gay alike would condemn the like of Arsenakotia today.Just as they would gang rape,or the sex crazed preist&prestesses of Rome. "

    Woman in love with her man wrote on Jul 4, 2008 1:12 PM:

    " For anyone that is gay, something in your life went terribly wrong for you to turn to the same sex, period. Don't even try and deny it!! God created Adam, and then Eve!! Enough said!! "

    Chuck wrote on Jul 4, 2008 2:35 AM:

    " To "Kim": I'm not a theologist. Not even close. Nor am I a "church goer", to say the least. However, I have read the bible from cover to cover, and honestly admit there are some things in that book I don't agree with, NONE of which will I share here (too touchy a subject). My point is, even though my beliefs may differ from yours, I AGREE whole heartedly with everything you've written regarding this subject. In my humble opinion, you've hit the nail on the head. High 5! "

    Truth wrote on Jul 3, 2008 11:59 PM:

    " You say the real message is God, well, that’s the Bible cover to cover. John 1:1-5. God is love, but He is also wrath (i.e. Sodom & Gomorrah) He’s jealous, Ex.34:14;He hates wrong doers Ps.5:5;becomes angry,Det9:7;God grieves,Gen.6:6, He laughs, Ps.2:4..etc...God doesn’t always get what he wants, he wants us all to go to heaven but not all of us will. Many good men will not go because they reject His way. Don’t let that be you. The 'choice' is yours. "

    To Kim wrote on Jul 3, 2008 7:27 PM:

    " Kim, I think we both know God intended Mom & Dad not Mom & Mom or Dad & Dad. "

    In Support wrote on Jul 3, 2008 5:02 PM:

    " Being a heterosexual female,I have been in contact with several gay individuals.
    The sensitivity, care, and love that they demonstrate toward their fellow human beings is to be applauded. I wish more heterosexuals exhibited these
    commendable qualities. "

    Kim wrote on Jul 3, 2008 9:37 AM:

    " To:To Truth standing up for what you believe in is fine and dandy,except when you are infrindging upon someone else's right to life liberty & the pursuit of happiness.What business is it of anyone to tell others how to live their lives(So long as they are at least following the big10)Do you realize that the Bible only mentions human sexuality at most 7 times? Don't you think given the small percentage you should be paying more attention the the real message...God?Both Jesus&Paul said the holiness codes of Moses(i.e.Leviticus) never pertained to Christians.So isn't it wrong touse them to condemn others? "

    To Truth wrote on Jul 3, 2008 12:58 AM:

    " Thank God for you standing for what is right! There's not enough Christians who do stand up for righteousness. It's not about judging, that's just an excuse the homosexuals use. Love the person but hate the sin. If Christians would stand up for the Lord, then they would not have taken prayer out of schools and replaced it with guns and killings in the schools. God says homosexuality is wrong. "

    Kim wrote on Jul 2, 2008 11:20 PM:

    " I agree with Just Think.As for Truth wrote remember that the Bible is a dangerous book to quote,especially when we could be wrong about its meaning. Over the centures people used the Bible to do terrible things.Will Shakespeare said,"EVEN THE DEVIL CAN SITE SCRIPTURE FOR HIS PURPOSE."The bible has been misused to defend bloody crusades& tragic inquisitions;to support slavery,apartheid,&segregation; to ok physical/emotional abuse of women &children;persicute Jews&other non-Christian people of faith;support Hitler's 3rd reich&theHolocaust;to oppose medical science;condemn inter-racial marriage;execute women as witches;support the KKK;mobilize militias,white supremecy & Neo-Natzi movements.2 latin words"scrutamini scripturus(search the scriptures)has undone the world."said 16thcentury John Selden. "

    Blondie wrote on Jul 2, 2008 10:36 PM:

    " I say whoever this Truth character is, ought to be nominated for sainthood! If you follow everything in theBible word for word, sign your real name so you can be nominated. "

    Billy Bob wrote on Jul 2, 2008 7:29 PM:

    " My 22 year old son is gay. So what I love him just the same. He works for a construction company. He gets a pay check , he pays his bills. I think that makes him a good person. I still just cannot get use to him having a boyfriend. I guess I will learn to live with it. "

    Truth wrote on Jul 2, 2008 1:31 PM:

    " In a nut shell, God says love the sinner, hate the sin.

    Sexual sins condemned in the Bible; Adultery;--Ex.20:14,Pr.5:1-23;--Incest,Lev.20:19-21;sex with animals,Lev.20:15-16;--loss of virginity before marrage,--Dt.22:22-21;--prostitution,--Dt.23:17-18,Pr.7:10-27;--homosexuality,--Ro.1:26-27,1Cor.6:9;--obsenity,--Eph.5:4,--L_st--Mt.5:27-28,1Th.4:5

    God wants his people to keep the sexual side of their nature untainted from sin. Continuing in such serious sins excludes one from the kingdom of God; yet your God in his awesome mercy does save and sanctify repentant people. The two most important ways to guard against sexual immorality are self-control and the cultivation of faithfulness in marriage, one woman with one man. "

    Truth cont... wrote on Jul 2, 2008 1:27 PM:

    " Not one of us have reached perfection. The choice I spoke of was not one of falling in love but turning from your sin. It still is your choice. The time is now to choose because after you die it’s too late. You will face God and you will be judged according to your lifestyle and choices you’ve made. The Bible is our guideline to what He expects of us. He doesn’t expect perfection, He does expect us to follow after Him. Not all that say they are Christians are Christ like. "

    Truth wrote on Jul 2, 2008 1:25 PM:

    " 1Cor.5:9...do not associate with sexually immoral people...These are not my words, they are God's words. What I wrote in here are not my judgments but God's judgments. BUT, I stand with God and his judgments. Also, I don't expect you to not love someone, but what you're talking about is not love, it's L_st. The God kind of love is not sexual. The love between a man and woman when married is a beautiful thing and God blesses it. God condemns the sexual love between two men or two women. I stand firmly planted with Gods word… "

    That is sad wrote on Jul 2, 2008 9:05 AM:

    " I would like to say i have met some of the most wonderful gay people in this world not just in iberia parish but all over, its sad that people can be so judgemental; how would they like if they were fat and nasty looking people would make fun of them, bet they wouldn't like it too much, well put the shoe on the other foot before you open your mouth and if you do stick that shoe in there! "

    Just Think wrote on Jul 2, 2008 8:01 AM:

    " To “To Just Think” – We are human and want to give love and be loved!! Many people do disown their family members for being gay. I am blessed to have accepting family and friends. Some had trouble accepting it at first, but they never turned their back on me. Once they saw that I was happy and in a loving, non-abusive, committed relationship, they had no problem accepting it. I see people forgiving people for extra-marital affairs, teenagers having children, etc, but they can’t accept two people in LOVE!! Pretty sad!! "

    Just Think wrote on Jul 2, 2008 7:44 AM:

    " Well said Max!! "

    Just Think wrote on Jul 2, 2008 7:42 AM:

    " To Your missing the point – I believe that the Lord wants people to love people. When I told my mom I was in a relationship, she asked me how did I know I was gay? I told her that I feel in love with a person, not the sex of the person. If my wife would have been a male, we would be legally married. How can you not expect me not to love someone? I feel that it is never too late for love!! "

    To Just Think wrote on Jul 1, 2008 7:05 PM:

    " I have worked with homosexual people for years at different jobs. They are humans too. Actually, they are the ones who go out of their way to help you. I have family members who are gay and most people in this community do too. So what? Do you disown your own family members (aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters)? I hope not. That is not an act that God would deem appropriate. "

    Just Think wrote on Jul 1, 2008 5:50 PM:

    " Brian – It is a shame that many of the influential gays in New Iberia choose to keep quiet about their true nature, but I feel that most people are moving away from this. Many people who know that I am gay, find out after they get to know me. They like me for who I am and I do not let my homosexuality define who I am. Life would be boring with out diversity!! "

    Just Think wrote on Jul 1, 2008 5:50 PM:

    " To continue - People do not have to agree with my lifestyle, as well as I may not agree with their beliefs, but I am free to live the way I would like and I let them live the way they choose. If you think that falling in love is a choice, then I am glad I made it!! "

    Just Think wrote on Jul 1, 2008 5:49 PM:

    " To continue - It amazes me how naive you (Truth) are to believe that you do not want to associate with “sexually immoral people”. Do you love others? If so, that must be your definition of “sexually immoral people”, because I love others and that does not make me “sexually immoral”. I feel that the love that I have for my wife is the same as the love between my two parents, who have been married for over 40 years. How can something so beautiful be condemned by people when there is so much hate "

    Just Think wrote on Jul 1, 2008 5:45 PM:

    " Truth – I believe that God loves people and especially people who love other people. I am open and ready to be judged by God and only God. I know many people that go against religious beliefs and I do not judge them. Many people divorce, have children without being married, cheat on their spouses, etc. What makes anyone feel that they should judge what other people do? "

    gina wrote on Jul 1, 2008 5:44 PM:

    " If god can forgive for murder and rape i'm sure he can forgive for loving someone of the same sex. By the way you should leave the judging up to the lord. As I remember judging is wrong "

    don wrote on Jul 1, 2008 3:17 PM:

    " to truth
    thank you for you awsome reflections. "

    Max wrote on Jul 1, 2008 3:14 PM:

    " We don't have to accept anything, that is the beauty of the U.S. Tolerating and letting you live your life in a peaceful manner is another. Everyone should have the right to do that. I don't have to agree with you, and could actualy see it as a bad thing, but who am i to judge. If it is immoral that is for you and the man to discuss, I have my own sins to account for, no need for me to stick my nose in other peoples. "

    Just a citizen wrote on Jul 1, 2008 3:08 PM:

    " That is true Brian. You would think that in this day and age peole could be more accepting! "

    sadie wrote on Jul 1, 2008 2:57 PM:

    " If I feel something is wrong, I cannot condone it. I have gay friends but do not condone their lifestyle. Just as I don't condone married men or woment having extramarital affairs. Just as I don't condone people who lie or cheat or steal. We have become a country that looks the other way in order to be accepted or popular, but we fail to stand up for that which we believe. "

    Your missing the point... wrote on Jul 1, 2008 1:19 PM:

    " It is the Sin that is not accepted not the person.If this were the way the Lord wanted things to be there would be 1 gender. What will you do when you stand before the Lord and judged and are not let into the kingdom of God? What excuse will you give? Even if you have these feelings you must not ACT upon them. Its like any other sin we are tempted with. Please rethink what you are doing before it is too late. "

    Truth wrote on Jul 1, 2008 9:58 AM:

    " ...And God will be the judge, you can count on that. God hates the homosexual sin, not the sinner. homosexuality,--Ro.1:26-27,1Cor.6:9 Read Genesis 19, the story of Sodom and Gomorrah destroyed and why. Here on the forum is the subject title ‘issues with being gay’ on June 29th is an entry of how the bible sees these sins. Ro.1:25...they exchange truth of God for a lie… 1Cor.5:9...do not associate with sexually immoral people...you have the opportunity now to turn away from that sin. It's your choice. "

    Brian wrote on Jul 1, 2008 8:52 AM:

    " Thank you Accepting. The sad thing is , many of the influential gays in New Iberia , past and present, have had to keep quiet about their true nature. It was and is common knowledge that Weeks Hall of the Shadows was gay. At least he didn't have to get married like many of the gays in his era and our's did. What make the human race rich is it's diversity. Vive' La Difference'! "

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