Child Support

Why is it so hard for men, to pay child support. Now, don't get me wrong , I know for a fact 90% of men pay, but it's that last 10% that refuses to do so.

Why? Please tell me  why you do not pay?  How do you think your child goes to private school? How does she eat, wear clothes, how does she live in the house that she lives in, how does she go to the doctor when she is sick? How does she do this?

Ding, Ding, Ding, we have a winner. ME!!!!! Oh my goodness, I have to have a job, to support my child!

I do not not get the medical card for my daughter, we have insurance. Which I remind you, her father is supposed to pay, he DOES NOT. I do not get food stamps, or welfare, instead I get a letter from the state that says he owes $9,980 for back support for  2006, 2007 and he is already behind $350.0 for 2008.  Why does the state send me this? I know he is not paying, are they going to step in a do anything? No of course not, this is a civil matter. But here is my question "How come if he refuses to pay child support why can't I terminate his rights?" Because the state says NO. But why? He is not supporting my daughter, why do I have to give him time to pay the back support? He knew he wasn't paying any child support in 2005, 2006, 2007, why should this come as a susprize to him? He knows!

I mean I do not understand? What happens if I decided to stop paying for everything? I would go to jail, for not taking care of my child, or OCS would step in place her with soemone else. So how come the same thing does not happen to him?  How much back child support is too much? Seriously, I want to know, when do I start having rights as a mother to say enough is enough?  Keep your damn money, just sign over your rights? I'm not getting it now, so why should it matter in 10 years?  Because let's be real people if he is not paying the little amount now that he owes, do you really think that he will pay the back support?  I'm sorry if you can go out a buy a brand new SUV, why can't you pay the $350.00/month your supposed to pay?  Why couldn't he go out and buy a used SUV, and pay half of the note of a brand new SUV and give me the other half?  And how is it you never have time to see your child but you can go out every weekend? How come you see your child in Wal -Mart and say"I'll see you this weekend?" And as soon as you leave, your daughter says "I know he won't come, it's ok., he'll come when he has time."

I want to know when do you have time to see her? Because you had nothing but time when you were making her?  When does she become important? When?  Please tell me, so I can tell her and maybe she won't cry anymore at night?  When is enough, enough? Because I'm tired of lying for you, I tired of making up excuses for you, I'm tired of stuggling b/c you refuse to pay child support, I just tired of looking at her standing in the window saying :What time is it? He said he would be here a noon?" It's almost 6:30pm now, it's dark and yet she is still waiting?  I'm too tired to watch anymore. Why do you do this?